I am 19 years old .. I have a problem with which I can’t cope on my own - social phobia. Because of this, I have problems with study, I am always late and often just miss ..
I'm trying to force myself to go, but when I arrived at the right metro station where the college is located, I immediately begin to have uncontrollable fear, my heart is pounding, my heart is becoming ill overall. This probably came back from school, but it was not so pronounced, and some teachers helped in the acquisition (I determined the name of my condition only recently, I didn’t indicate it before, I did not consider it a problem). At first, in college, I felt fine, but I didn’t make friends with anyone (I just didn’t agree with my interests), I didn’t get along with the class teacher and master - and then it all started. I understand with my mind that nothing terrible is happening, but I can’t control it. Now I am in my third year. The first two weaned in half with grief, but in September the horror began. I rarely go to college. It's scary to go straight to tears. Constantly sit on hospital certificates. Because of the eternal passes in college, they scold and quarrel at home with mom. Now I can’t fall asleep, tomorrow on one pair the credit for chemistry, which I don’t know and have never been since September. I can’t go there, if I come, there will be abuse from all teachers, threats of expulsion, and if I don’t go, I will quarrel with my mother. I really do not want to quarrel with her, she is the closest person, but when it comes to studying and my passes, she swears very much, and my tongue does not turn to say that I am afraid to go to college, that I feel bad. How to talk with mom ?! How to tell her the reason for my omissions? I can’t go to school in the morning. I'm already scared to tears.
P. S. The problem concerns not only educational institutions, but also in crowded places where they can pay attention to me, I also feel discomfort and fear, but in a less pronounced form.
Hello! Can I find out your name?
According to the description of your situation, it cannot be said unequivocally that you have sociophobia.
When did your condition worsen? What exactly do you think was connected with (deterioration)? You have finished school.
You write that you have to force yourself to go to college. Do you want to get the profession you are studying for?
You write that you did not share interests with certain people. It turns out that you have other interests, and there may be other people with whom you can agree with interests?
What are your interests?
It turns out that you are able to communicate, but do not want to do what you do not like, do not want to enter into conflicts, communicate with people with other interests. This is quite normal, even one of the other follows.
You write that your condition was "helped by some teachers in the acquisition."
What exactly do you mean? Are there any specific situations that you have in mind?
As far as I understand, your main question is: How to talk with mom?
What do you want to convey to your mom?
You are an adult and are able to independently make decisions regarding your future. What do you want in this situation?
Hello. This condition began to disturb tangibly from the middle of the 8th grade, when preparations began for the final translation exam (from 8th to 9th, in basic subjects). There were two teachers at the school (in Russian and chemistry) who considered it their duty to spread rot on me at each of their lessons. Initially, the situations that served their relationship were not. But I studied vocal at school, remained after classes for classes, performed at all concerts. This started the humiliation, the condemnation "you can’t learn anything else. You’re only able to work and you won’t be able to work .." If a school concert was near or I was preparing for the competition, they tried to hurt me, humiliate me, and amuse classmates in the classroom ..
After all this, I began to be involuntarily late for school (a Russian lesson was often the first, then there could be any other, and then literature with the same teacher). And sometimes chemistry was the first lesson .. Even when I tried to catch the lessons on time, I didn’t succeed, something was in the way (I started to feel sick, my blood pressure and temperature increased, my legs went down ..) When I was late, I could come to the second lesson but always met somewhere with these teachers, they scolded me, trying so that they would hear others "what came, go sleep", etc.
My immunity weakened, I began to get sick very often and for a long time (ARVI proceeded without temperature, and if it went up, then no higher than 37.5). Permanent inquiries also became a reason for humiliation .. When preparation for the GIA began in the 9th grade, the hassle became constant, especially on the part of the chemistry teacher, who had absolutely nothing to do with the GIA and my certificate (she was told about this, but only infuriated her more). Through tears and tattered nerves, I still passed the GIA the first time (almost five in Russian, and I have big problems with mathematics, I passed it only 8 points, with 6 minimum points).
I graduated from school and began to go to college as a cook, pastry chef (I don’t want to be a cook, but I’m a pastry chef, but there are no pastry colleges in Moscow). Received, began to study. At first everything was fine, I liked it, but there was little anxiety when I went to school, but it seemed like I didn’t really bother. But I didn’t make friends with the group (I’m just not interested in talking with them, they have their favorite pastimes to smoke, drink, discuss who with whom and when, and almost all speech is obscene.) I don’t have bad habits, and their topics for conversation I'm not interested. (If I communicate with someone, then with older people, I am more comfortable communicating with my mom’s friends, for example. And my interests are: Theater, cinema, vocals, animals ..)
In college, I just was on my own, did not focus on this in any way. Communicated with them only on matters of study. Then classmates began to worry that I did not smoke and did not swear at all. They drew attention to this and began to provoke me to curse .. I began to enrage them, openly said: "Che, saint, what?" And then I became one of the group that the class teacher didn’t like, she began to humiliate me at all, she was also worried about the fact that I didn’t communicate with anyone, asked at all: "What are you so not contact with? Do not go to smoke with "Everyone, you don’t go for breaks at all. Why didn’t you like your classmates?" (that’s exactly what she said, word for word). After that, classmates often tried to insult me, make fun of me, and classroom hands. Seeing this, pretty smile ..
So I graduated from the first course. The class teacher from the second year no longer led our group, only the master remained (I also did not get along with him, he behaved like a six class teacher, always assented to her). I thought that from the second year everything will work out, but I continued to get sick often, was late, and constantly became ill. Because of this, problems with studies began, a lot of passes and tails in subjects .. I barely finished my second year, and in the third (final) everything became even worse. Since September, the state of college is terrible, almost panic. Even at home it becomes bad, and on the road it becomes bad and scary .. So many situations in my head at once .. What will happen when I come to college, when I meet the teachers, the administration.
In November, they already called me to the teachers' council because of passes, they threatened to expel, there were about 20 people (all teachers, masters .. Even those whom I do not know). And so they all sit in class at their desks, the director calls me and they begin to report me together in unison. At first I stood and listened, my heart was pounding terribly, my head was spinning .. I stood, stood, and then the tears began to pour. And they continued everything .. The state of panic, could not calm down. About three or four minutes she stood like that .. Then they let me go and I sobbed in the toilet, I could not come to my senses.
After that, I barely left for a week for lessons, and then hopeless inquiries began. I can’t force myself to go to college.
How am I going, so I feel irresistible fear bordering on a panic. I understand that this is very stupid, that I earn even more problems, but I can not do anything with myself.
All this since the 8th grade has been bothering not only at school - just in crowded places: Metro, shopping center, clinic, supermarket, bus. Everywhere it’s uncomfortable when people are nearby, the feeling that everyone is watching, his legs give way, it becomes uncomfortable. Eating out is generally a problem for me, in college in the dining room or in the shopping center (food court), I can’t eat at all when strangers are around, especially if someone looks.
And there are no friends at all, not a single one right. There are some people with whom I can more or less communicate, but also not very comfortable.
Everything was aggravated after the teacher's council in college. Now I don’t know what to do with it.
May I know your name?
You have understandable reasons for your fears, which you yourself are aware of, and this is very good. Understanding the cause of your problems is already the beginning of their solution.
As I understand it, you are in your final year, and, in fact, there are several months left to finish this institution and you will be free from it. Right?
As far as I understand, you would still like to finish your education and would not want to drop it, given that two years have already "exhausted", right?
It seemed paradoxical to me that your lateness increases the likelihood of unpleasant consequences, but nevertheless you are always late.
Usually anxious people try in every possible way to avoid situations where stress is possible for them. And you have the opposite.
Why do you think so? Do you punish yourself?
Describe the palette of your feelings that you experience? Fear of a public "reprimand", what feelings still bother you?
What ways out of this situation did you consider?
My name is Kristina.
Yes, I would really like to graduate from college. I don’t even know why I’m late, one thought that I need to study and it becomes physically bad for me (headache, nausea, hands shaking, internal chills.), Because of this I become distracted, losing the passage of time. If I wake up much earlier, start to pack in advance, then I feel even worse and I’m still late.
Now I have a lot of passes (with and without references), and on such subjects as chemistry, an English individual project (this subject is taught by the director), social studies - I have never been since the beginning of the school year. I have problems in all of the above subjects, I don’t know them (social science only somehow), they are not given to me at all .. When I come to college, I will be flown heavily for these subjects, threats of expulsion, etc.
The fear of such "reprimands", the fear of doing something wrong and disgrace (when for example I just go, I'm afraid to stumble), the fear of contact with classmates (everything gets colder inside, the heartbeat quickens when I'm just around, even if I don’t communicate), is worrying.
Another problem is that I can’t talk with strangers over the phone (for example, if I’m calling from an unfamiliar number, I’m mostly not suitable or when I need to call somewhere myself, let's say the clinic’s hours of operation, etc., I’m very it’s hard to do, it’s dry in the mouth, the heart is pounding again ..). It’s even anger at the master, because he provokes the administration and teachers, and he stands and watches me being humiliated, if not for him, I could solve the problems of studying gradually .. There would be no such problems. And also resentment, I don’t understand who and what, but it’s very disappointing that everything is so.
It's a shame that all this started with me. And I don’t know how to deal with this, turn to a psychologist (or psychotherapist) for help, at the moment the only option, but financial opportunities do not allow me to do this in person, off the Internet
Meet your roommate. You need to be moderately kind and considerate, but not too much so as not to become a foot mat. If you don’t like something, don’t be afraid to raise the question out loud, but take care to express it in a soft way. It is more productive to use sentences that express your personal opinion, for example: “I can’t sleep with loud music. Could you put on your headphones after midnight? ”
Set the basic rules. It is better to immediately agree on what does not suit you, and with which you can agree. This will help in resolving potential conflicts in the future. When discussing the rules, pay attention to the following points:
- Music and noise. If you like different styles, arrange so that everyone can listen to their favorite music in turn or agree to headphones. If necessary, install time of silence and loud time . Example. One roommate loves to sing Disney songs, and the other cannot stand it. Agree at what time the first one can cut his favorite songs and sing along. The second neighbor at this time can use ear plugs that the first could calmly sing, without feeling like on needles.
- Visitors. Do you mind that the platonic love of a roommate sleeps with you from time to time? And if love is not platonic? Set rules for night visitors before that how the real situation arises. This will avoid unpleasant clarification of the relationship at the most inopportune moment, when someone's self-esteem will necessarily suffer. You can agree in advance about a special knock on the door or preliminary SMS messages so that there is no surprise for you.
- Parties Agree on what suits both of you and what doesn’t. Perhaps a few friends are enough for you to have a conversation with a beer, or you want a complete feast every weekend, or you are not happy with any substances at all. It is necessary to strive for a compromise on both sides. It is not fair to limit the social contacts of a roommate on his territory, but to endure drunken parties that annoy you is also not fair.
Keep your room clean! Everyone has their own views on cleanliness, but do not ignore each other's requirements, otherwise an unpleasant smell will appear in the room.
Keep an eye on your belongings. Things can disappear in the laundry room or shared refrigerator. Much depends on the status of the college and its location. In some educational institutions, a laptop needs an eye and an eye, and it is also better to use a bicycle lock. Ask other students how seriously you need to take security.
Do not be afraid to ask for help. In most hostels there is a director and staff, whose position obliges to help residents in various matters. Ideally, they should strive to make you feel at home here. If problems with your roommate cannot be resolved, consult your local authority.
Find out what is allowed. Some hostels practice prohibition, others do not allow people of the opposite sex, and some have serious restrictions on the use of fire. Use caution.
Most dormitories have a shared shower room. Do not forget your bathing slippers! Some diseases are transmitted through foot contact. Besides, who knows what was going on inside?
Hello. I am 15 years old and I went to college. There were no problems at school with school, nor with classmates, nor with teachers. I don’t climb into my pocket for a word. But I'm afraid to go to college. I'm a little scared of the changes. What if I’m not making friends with anyone there? Mom and Dad reassure me that if I don’t like something, then I can return to school. And I really want to go to college. But the closer the first day of study, the worse for me. What to do?
It is human nature to be afraid in unfamiliar situations. Just imagine that all the guys who go to this college are also afraid, only everyone to a different degree, everyone has their own fears. If everything was fine at school and with your studies, and in relations with classmates and teachers, then you can assume that everything will work out in college too. As I understand it, you’re mostly worried about finding friends in college. This is really very important. When you first meet, your attitude plays a significant role: what more do you prepare for - to look kindly and kindly for a person with whom you will be pleased to talk, or you are already preparing for the fact that you will not meet interesting people in college and in general you will have to from someone to defend. As I understood from your words, you know how to defend yourself - "you won’t get into your pocket for a word," so you won’t let yourself be offended. In the end, your parents are right, if it doesn’t work out in your college, you can always go back to school. Because you now have some ideas about what college is like, in fact, everything can be different. In any case, you can understand and appreciate everything only when you start to study.
Paryugina Oksana Vladimirovna, psychologist Ivanovo
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Good time, Maria. Your anxiety is very clear. We are all very worried when we are going to change something in life or find ourselves in unfamiliar places. It is very important for us how we will be received, what impression we will make on people. Anyway, any change is a jump into the unknown. You will all come across similar experiences in college. And, of course, it is not known whether you will be able to find close friends. Но если Вам, Мария, так важно учиться именно в этом колледже, Вам обязательно удастся найти друзей по интересам. Sincerely.
Силина Марина Валентиновна, психолог Иваново
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Здравствуйте, Мария! Ваша тревога абсолютно естественна. Every time there are significant changes in our lives, we tend to worry. Perhaps when you went to school after kindergarten, you also worried.
Maria, the fact that you had no problems with school, neither with classmates, nor with teachers at school is a good sign. According to you, you are a sociable person. So it’s very likely that everything in your college will be safe.
It's just that people tend to experience uncertainty. When you usually went to school on September 1, you met with the same classmates, with the same teachers, and only the school curriculum was new. And now there is a lot of new things - technical school itself, classmates, teachers. It is exciting and interesting at the same time.
I remember when I went to college - I was also worried, and on the same issues: will I make friends, will I be able to study with dignity. Everything worked out in the best way, and I remember with pleasure the student years.
Mary, anyone is afraid. Moreover, it is important to go into this fear, not to avoid it, and then overcoming we become stronger and more confident. I sincerely wish you a good adaptation in the college. Sincerely, Svetlana Gorbashova.
Gorbashova Svetlana Vasilievna, psychologist Ivanovo
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I am 16 years old, and this year I am going to study at a technical school. In this technical school, the majority of students are boys, and in my group, 5-6 girls, including me, are from the strength. (only 30 people) I am afraid of new people, problems associated with them, and even more so the team, where there are almost only boys. Somehow I do not want to be an outcast, but taking the first steps is very scary. maybe because I don’t know what to talk about with them.
I know that this may turn out to be empty fear, but at the moment this thought does not let me go for a minute.
All problems come from my childhood, and as a result, now I treat people with caution, expecting a dirty trick or ridicule. And so I stopped opening up to people, last year I studied, communicating with only 3 people, learning in 3 ways. although the exams (GIA), all passed on 4 matches. I want to communicate with others, learn new things from them, learn to communicate, but I'm afraid. I can’t relax, become confident in myself. because in childhood I was the target of bullying by the class, and this passed with me into an "adult" life, not allowing me to live as I would like.
I'd love to hear live stories, how did you get to know people? was it scary? Tell me, please.
I want to enroll in an art school in order to at least somehow distract myself from the technical school, and I would like to learn how to draw. I think that this will help me to be free, I can find friends, acquaintances.
Tell me what you think about it, and how to live on.
Everyone who responds in advance is very grateful.
Features of the educational process, or why a university is not a school
- Remember, student, the main thing that distinguishes a university from school: your diploma is your problem. Yes, we know that in schools everywhere they pull on triples for hominids who have not even reached the level of erectus. Because teachers, head teachers and principals, firstly, rivet reports on school performance, and secondly, get loot for every sheep from the school herd. It’s not in vain that secondary school is called the “settler” and the “corral,” in which teenagers are kept up to the army so that they do not stagger around the streets. Are you used to being pulled by the ears? Forget it.
Universities expel both erectus, Neanderthals, and even some under-evolved Cro-Magnons. Because age already allows you to fuse them into the army! Or send to lay out goods on the shelves of the supermarket. Moreover, the most powerful stream of deducted merges into the sewer after the first semester.
University teachers deeply purple, whether you crawl to the diploma. No one will run after you with the request to pass, finally, the standings. And parents will not be called to the dean’s office.
Zarubi on the nose: the university is not a school! You have become an adult!
- But you need to visit. Unfortunately, the hypothesis that “a student is an adult who independently controls the personal learning process” does not stand up to practice. Practice shows that most students remain over-age schoolchildren. And if you don’t control the attendance of lectures and seminars by these young people, heels of “nerds” will sit in the audience. Therefore, no matter how contrary the principle of testing those present to the principles of university education, most teachers practice it.
Walking the lecture, you can get into the "black list" of the teacher, which is fraught with especially close attention to the exam. Some teachers even require you to show the abstracts of proclaimed lectures.
A truant seminars, colloquiums, practical, laboratory and control will have to work out in 99% of cases.
- Find out immediately what is needed for admission to the session. Some tests and exams are allowed only if a essay, report, essay, and control are written. This is not so bad, the "waste paper" can be ordered from studlansers in November - December. Worse, if the university has a point system for admission to the session. Points must be collected right from September.
- Put the textbook ... well, somewhere on the back shelf. Do not hope that the textbook will help you prepare for the exam. This is another key difference from school. The textbook is an auxiliary tool, and the main sources of knowledge at the university are lectures and literature, with the help of which you will prepare for seminars. Of course, it is not necessary to throw away the textbook altogether - as a basis, basis, it will work perfectly. Just keep in mind that the textbooks that will be given to you are most often outdated. You need to look for new ones in the library, buy or download online (if possible). And there are also teachers who specifically drive on exams in their lectures. However, there are also those who give lectures according to the textbook - it’s easier with these.
- Get ready to work with literature yourself. If you think that the goal of a university is to stuff you with knowledge, then you are deeply mistaken. The goal of the university is to teach you how to independently receive information, to give self-education skills and, preferably, to shape your scientific thinking. The textbook provides a basis, lectures structure the material and help to sort it out in your head, and it drives an independent search for materials among articles and monographs.
You will find some of the materials on the Internet (thanks to the digitization!), But much has not yet entered the World Wide Web. Therefore, you have to stomp into a university, regional or specialized library, make extracts and photocopies. Horror horror? Nothing, then say thank you for teaching you to learn on your own. In the information age, knowledge becomes obsolete very quickly. A professional needs to study and learn in order to remain in demand, and for this you need to have the skills of self-education.
One way to measure the rate of obsolescence of facts is to look at the citation index of scientific articles. If the publication is not cited, this most likely means that it is irrelevant or outdated. So, for example, as a result of studying publications in Physical Review journals, representing different areas of physical science, it turned out that half of the publications cease to be cited on average after 10 years, and, say, in nuclear physics - after 5 years. The half-life of a book (in the sense of citations) is about 13 years in physics, 9.4 years in economics, 9.1 years in mathematics, and about 7 years in history and psychology.
- Find out what seminars, colloquiums, essays, abstracts, tests, students and other mysterious garbage are. Megatons of unfamiliar or completely unfamiliar words fall upon a freshman, under which new methods of testing knowledge are hidden. Yes, bro, it’s not like in school. Start dealing with all this right from September.
- Tune in to a new rhythm of learning. Lessons of 40 minutes and long breaks are a thing of the past. Now you have to sit in pairs, and a break is only enough to run from the audience to the audience (it is better to go to the dining room during the "windows"). On the other hand, there are pluses: perhaps the schedule will have days when you can be on the second or even the third pair. Appreciate the “window”: instead of just stupidly stumbling waiting for the next couple, go to the library or the dining room.
- Remember that the weeks are upper and lower. Another innovation. Enter the data in the gadget that you carry with you. Still confused? Going to the schedule is the easiest way to find out what week it is.
- Find out when the session begins, how the “tails” are delivered, and also (for every fireman) the rules for granting academic leave. And find out all this not in December, but as soon as possible.
- Do not forget that you can fly out of the university for violation of discipline. The life of a student is much freer than that of a student, but the dean will not turn a blind eye to some rejections. And if it comes to the administration, you yourself understand. The reason for the exception may be a particularly violent binge in the hostel (for example, throwing a refrigerator out the window), violation of the law, and even overly active political activity (for example, a single picket in front of the administrative building demanding the resignation of the rector). If they don’t pay directly, they will create conditions under which it will be very problematic to pass a session. So keep yourself in control.
- Try to understand that you are already an adult and you are responsible for the results of your studies at the university. Remember, no one will chase you with reminders of lectures and seminars. And there will be no calls to parents asking, “Where is your child sick or skipping?” Become independent.
- Work on the record. At least the first two sessions give all your best. Then it will be easier: the better your image, the more loyal your teachers are to you. And vice versa: to the triplets and “tails” the teachers are prejudiced. In general, work for the student, then it will work for you.
Your head swells with advice, freshman? Wait, this is just the beginning. If you haven’t broken yet, read the recommendations that will help you live through the session and survive it.
Freshwater Tips for Training Waters
- Learn to benefit even from boring lectures. To do this, you need to learn 1) to listen (and hear), 2) to focus. Useful skills that you will need in life.
- Master the skills of imitation of interest. This is in case the teacher is a beast, and his lectures are really stupid and senseless. But do not abuse this skill, otherwise your whole future career will come down to office IUD (imitation of violent activity). Use skill in exceptional cases.
- Learn to take notes. No need to verbatim lectures word for word. Select the main thing, develop your own, understandable for the brain system of abbreviations and conventional signs. Inspect logically, structurally.
- Use the recorder and other gadgets wisely. Do not rely on the achievements of civilization at 100%. First, to decipher a lecture from a voice recorder is a chore. Imagine: you sat a lecture, and then still have to spend the same amount of time decoding the record! Is that reasonable? Recording on the recorder is suitable only for audiences (people who are best at listening to information). Secondly, teachers really do not like students who turn on the recorder and continue to sit with an absent look.
As for tablets, laptops and netbooks, they can help a lot, especially in the library. But do not forget that recording with a pen activates the processes of memorization in the brain. Remember the teachers who need to take handwritten notes.
- Stock up on common notebooks, pens, multi-colored markers. Carry a spare handle with you. Use colored markers to highlight the main thing, to structure the records.
- Go to the university library for textbooks among the first. Yes, textbooks at the university are not the main thing, but they are still needed. In most universities, textbooks are not enough for everyone. Especially new.
- Find out where the libraries and reading rooms you need are located. Sign up and learn how to work with the catalog. Unfortunately, so far the Internet does not have all the materials you need.
- Write down the schedule, remember the location of the buildings and classrooms. You can just go tail after your group, but it is better to be independent. It is also worth recording the opening hours of libraries, gyms, laboratories and other places that you will visit.
- Gather information about teachers and take into account their individual characteristics. Write and remember the name of the teachers - this time! Get to know them in person - two. There is nothing dumber than getting to know a teacher on an exam. Learn about the nature and habits of everyone (older students will help). Find out who relates to attending lectures, who has what requirements at seminars, tests, exams.
- Choose a science teacher. A correctly chosen supervisor will not only help in writing term papers and bring you to a diploma, but will also protect you in front of the department and even in front of the dean's office. We advise a freshman to read an article about the right choice of a supervisor and 10 types of homo-educated students.
- Read about the principles of time management. Learn to allocate time so that it is enough for visiting the university, and for independent preparation, and for rest.
- Divide objects into important and unimportant. Profile - important, bury your head in them. Teach all kinds of non-core subjects in such a way as to get credit - this is enough. It makes no sense to immerse yourself in the study of an analogue of school life safety at the expense of a specialized subject.
- Try to get "machines" to the maximum. Taking a test or an exam "automatically", for active training activities during the semester, will save you from the hassle before the exam. Some teachers also have “semiautomatic devices”, which is also a good thing: you can choose one of the two questions on the exam.
- Do not sit on the Kamchatka Peninsula. This is a place for those who want to do their own thing, not study. Many teachers treat Kamchatka with prejudice (especially if they hear the rumble of beer bottles accidentally hit by someone’s foot). In addition, in “Kamchatka” it is usually hard to hear what the teacher says. It is better to record lectures sitting on the first desks or in the middle of the audience.
The middle is perhaps the most comfortable place. It is audible normal, and in which case - you can get a little bit of a bit of a mess. The first desks are loved by excellent students, they allow you to establish visual contact with the teacher, as well as demonstrate hard work and interest.
- Feel free to ask questions to the teacher. If something is not clear - ask boldly. Teachers love active students. But do not overdo it, an imitation of interest will create your image of a sneak. Or even worse - the image of a silly sneak.
- Lectures are useless, it makes no sense to waste your strength on them. If the teacher notes truants, sit in the middle and simulate employment. Unless, of course, this beast does not require to provide notes of its blizzard.
- If a teacher is a nonsense and nobody writes his lectures, you better write them down. Why? Because then you can get their figs from anyone! Keep in mind that the teacher’s nonsense attitude to the visits and notes of his lectures can turn into a stiff exam. For some teachers, indifference is selective: they believe that the student does not need to be forced to study, it is his personal business to study or not to study. The exam will dot all the i's ...
- Activate at seminars! This is a direct path to the "machine." Or, at least, reducing the risk of mining before the session.
- Afraid of speaking to an audience? Paradoxical advice: speak as often as possible. The skill of public speaking is useful in life (not to mention the fact that the session will be easier to pass).
- If the teacher distributed the topics of the reports to everyone, try to read yours as soon as possible. Otherwise, there may not be enough time, and either the “machine gun” will be covered, or you will have to carry the report directly to the test or exam, or you will look for a teacher to introduce him to the fruits of his work outside school hours.
- Practical, laboratory, control should be taken on time. Do not skip them, do not save mini-tails. We’ll have to hand over anyway. Gradually, doing this is easier than sorting out a pile of workouts before the session itself.
- Start writing coursework and essays as early as possible. If you are going to order them from studlansers - do not delay too. Why - explained in detail in the article "How to order a coursework from a student to get an excellent result."
- Before you hand over the ordered or downloaded work, read it! Do not give the teacher a reason to catch you for free.
- If your classmates are driving a bulldozer, do not be equal to them. You don’t want to get into those 20% of loafers who will fly out in the first session?
Why is a freshman social, cultural and scientific activity?
- Social activity is not only interesting, but also useful. Activeness in social and cultural projects increases the chance of getting a scholarship.
- If you have a penchant for scientific activity, do not restrain yourself. Participate in university and international conferences, enroll in the student scientific society. This is useful for grading and opens the way to graduate school. And then to delicious grants.
- International exchange, foreign conferences and participation in international student projects - a chance to visit abroad for free. Learn languages and be more active!
- If the faculty holds Olympiads, quizzes, contests - participate. Призом могут быть автоматы по всем предметам в зачётке, именная стипендия, разовое денежное поощрение… В общем, всякие ништяки плюс уважение преподавателей.
- Участие в молодёжных политических проектах тоже полезно. Именно с этого может начаться твой путь в политику – если, конечно, тебе это интересно. Но учти, что не вся политика полезна для студента. Unfortunately, oppositional political activity in our country can lead to expulsion from the university. So choose projects approved by the university.
- If you are a born administrator, become a headman or a finorg, or better yet, make a career in the trade union committee. The path is not for everyone, but if it is yours, go for it. A sense of power and money nishtyaki attached.
- For a student with a journalistic, journalistic vein, it makes sense in the first year to go to the editorial office of a student newspaper. You can start an alternative blog, a website yourself or together with like-minded people, or arrange for the publication of a faculty newspaper. Just be adequate - you don’t even need to dump everything you think about “Denisov’s idiot” and “Kubareva’s bitch” on your personal blog. They also know how to read.
- Take part in amateur performances. First of all, skits and KVN are fun! Secondly, if you apply for a nominal scholarship, this activity will also be counted. Thirdly, valuable creative personnel can count on concessions from the dean’s office for problems with the session. But within reasonable limits, of course.
- Artists, poets, writers and other very creative personalities, it makes sense to participate in competitions, enroll in student profile communities. Sometimes the work of students is published by university newspapers. Well, on the Internet for self-presentation in general expanse. These talents are very in demand in the preparation of all kinds of events.
- Clever men and women should join the ChGK team. If you don’t take it, create your own team and tear your opponents to shreds!
- Take part in sports competitions. Volleyball, basketball, and even chess tournaments are not only a way of self-realization, but also a chance to get an “automatic machine” in physical education. Cash incentives are possible. In the USA, even very stupid athletes are so appreciated by colleges and universities that they pass sessions even with complete brain atrophy. Our concessions are not so chic, but you can count on them too.
- Think about the future. From the first year you should think about how you will build your career after graduation. Will you work in your specialty? Are you going to go for a red diploma? Are you interested in graduate school? Do you need a foreign language for your career? Are you going to look for a job by profession while studying at a university? The clearer your plans are, the better the chances are that you will come up with a precise knowledge of where you will work and, possibly, even with offers from employers.
- Join the team. Do not be arrogant, do not provoke conflicts from the very first days at the university. Do not be afraid of classmates - they are also scared
- Behave with dignity. Do not creep in front of the "strong", do not become the "six". Do not be afraid to be an outcast if you do not agree with the dominant group on the course. Look for like-minded people. Be yourself.
- Do not intrigue, avoid warring microgroups. This will avoid many troubles.
- Exchange contacts with classmates. In which case you will know who to call, write or knock on skype to clarify the schedule or assignment for the seminar.
- If you like to skip, taking a break with the headman. A good relationship with the elder will reduce the number of “N” badges opposite your last name in the visit log. Chocolates rule.
- Contacts with senior students are really useful. Senior comrades will help with notes and materials, talk about the nature of teachers.
- Make friends with those who live in a hostel. First of all, they have fun. Secondly, there are always notes in the hostel. Someone’s.
- Make useful friends. It can be student managers who will help write academic work or staff of medical institutions who can write out the necessary certificate. It’s not a fact that these acquaintances will come in handy, but in a force majeure situation you will know who to turn to.
- Create a support community with fellow students. Together it’s easier to prepare for seminars (each prepares his part, then exchange materials). In preparation for tests and exams, friends will test their knowledge (during verification they will receive an intellectual bonus on both sides). And it’s cheaper to order spurs or answers to tests, exercises in Latin or the English chipper from the students.
- Sift freeloaders and leeches. Mutually beneficial help is good, arrogance is bad. Help friends, but not to the detriment of yourself. Remember: those who are lucky go on that one. While you write essays to freeloaders for free, someone gets paid for it.
- Try to get contacts from the supervisor and other teachers. You may need to contact them. But do not flood the teachers with messages, do not get people. These are contacts in case of emergency. However, you can contact an adequate scientific scientist in the process of writing a term paper regularly. Many teachers switched to Skype consultations.
- Meet the curator of the course, take the contacts of the dean's office. Also may be useful.
- Making contacts with teachers, don't fall in love This advice is addressed primarily to the fair sex. Loving a teacher is a well-known psychological phenomenon. Dangerous thing!